Emir of Kano
Muhammad Sanusi II has responded to critics following his marriage last week to Sa'adatu Barkindo-Musdafa who is 18 year old . Read below the supposedly leaked email
sent to a selected person but has leaked to many social media platforms, he
explained why he decided to marry Sa'adatu.
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| Muhammad Sanusi II" I am sure NC members all have their views and have kept quiet out of (appropriate) deference to our right to make our individual choice. Obviously I do not need to explain anything to anyone in a purely personal matter but a few points are worthy of note: |
1. The lady in question is 18 and therefore legally of age to marry
under all laws and certainly under Muslim law
2. She is proceeding for her undergraduate education in the UK in January.
She had an A in computer science in her O levels and plans to get a degree in
computer science.
3 each and every one of my wives is a university graduate and some
have worked and then stopped and in each case the choice was purely theirs.
4. It is a tradition in Kano that emirs and princes in choosing
wives consider issues beyond the individual. The family is in every sense a
social unit. My predecessor was married to princesses from Ilorin, Katsina and
Somoto.
5 The relationship between the late Lamido of Adamawa Aliyu
Musdafa the father of the current Lamido is well known. Lamido Aliyu was the
first emir turbaned after emir Sanusi I and they remained close until Sanusi’s
death.
6. My own relationship with the current Lamido dates back to 1981
when he was Ciroma and commissioner for works. By the way the Lamido and I are
not illiterates we know what we are doing and he does have a PhD in Engineering.
7. My own mother was married in Adamawa and lived there for more
than two decades and I have eight younger brothers and sisters from there.
8 it is therefore natural that if I choose to marry from another
kingdom Adamawa would be the first choice for me and I am extremely happy to
strengthen these ling historical bonds.
9. The young lady in question gave her free consent and even after
the contract the wedding will not happen for a few years. By then she may be
21. If she freely consents to this I do not know on what moral grounds anyone
has a grouse. She is an adult, she gave her consent, her education is not being
in anyway interrupted.
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| Sa'adatu Barkindo-Musdafa |
10. The real issue is that people do not accept cultural
difference. And you can see it in the approach to these issues. I am supposed
to be urbane and western educated. Yes but i am not European. I am a northern Nigerian
Fulani Muslim brought up in a setting exactly like the one my children are
being brought up in.
If you read this and it improves your understanding of this issue
that is fine. If it does not just remember it us not your life, it is not your
daughter and you are not my wife therefore it is not your business.
I obviously cannot stoop to the level of responding publicly to
these kinds of articles. I have always been an advocate of girls marrying after
maturing. I personally like the minimum age of 18 even though i understand
those who say 16 is fine and indeed this is the law in most so calked
@advanced@ countries.
Is this something that I expect a European or western trained or
feminist mind to appreciate or endorse? Not at all. But has any American been
bothered about my views on men marrying men or women marrying women who frankly
I find primitive and bestial? No and my views do not matter. These are cultural
issues.
Even in Nigeria I have heard all this stuff as in Pius article
about “north” and northerners. Again it is a failure to respect difference.
There are parts if this country where parents expect their daughters to live
with their boyfriends for years and actually get pregnant before they marry. It
has become culture. We do not have that in the north and if your daughter gets
pregnant before marriage she brings nothing but shame to the name. But we do
not issue condemnations. We agree that this is how they choose to live. And i
can give many other examples.
When people use the term libido they do themselves injustice.
First of all it shows how they view women and marriage. Women are nothing but
the object of sexual desire. Marriage is nothing but sexual gratification. Well
I am sorry but in my tradition it is not. Beauty and attraction rank third
after religion and lineage in the choice of a wife. They see an 18 year old
young lady. I see a princess of noble birth whose mother is also a princess,
and who has been brought up in a good muslim home. This is the kind of woman
that is prepared for giving birth to princes and bringing them up for the role
expected of them in society.
Marriage is both social and political. Expanding the links of kano
which have already been established by my predecessors through inter marriage
with katsina, sokoto, ilorin, katagum, ningi, bauchi etc to adamawa is an
important and significant step and this is obvious to anyone with a sense of
how royal families work and Ibn Khaldun’s sociological concept of Asabiyyah.
When the emir of Kano marries it has to be something beyond what he personally
desires to what is appropriate for that position and the expectations of the
people he represents. You dont just pick up any girl on the street. And by the
way for this who shout libido sex is cheap and available everywhere in all
shapes and sizes and all colours if that is what they want. And all ages too. Marriage
is a very different proposition. The mother of your children has to be
something other than, ot at least much more than a mere object of sexual
fantasy. But if you do not know that you need to buy yourself a brain.
I have daughters. And they know they can only marry from certain
backgrounds. I always prefer family. When my daughter wanted to marry mouftah
baba ahmed’s son and she asked me, knowing my views on family, i told her
mouftah is family. And this is not about me and mouftah or me a hakeem or
nafiu. No. It goes back to Baba Ahmed and Emirs Sanusi and Bayero. And the same
rule applies to my sons. And it applied to me as well.
It is I am sure very strange that I should even bother to comment
on this. But it would be hypocritical for me to just keep quiet so long as
these things are being posted and commented upon explicitly or in a snide
manner. There was no secrecy in the marriage fatiha. The date was fixed and it
was to be done in the central mosque after Friday prayers. The day before we
had a tragedy in Saudi Arabia and decided the fatiha must be very low key as a
mark of respect for the dead. All traditional rulers in Adamawa were there, as
were governors and commissioners, members of my own emirate council and Adamawa
people. There is nothing here to hide or be apologetic about.
The emirs of Adamawa have shown love to my parents and
grandparents and it is a sign of my appreciation of their love that i marry
their daughter. This is the highest statement of friendship and loyalty on both
sides.
Again if you understand this this is fine. If you do not buy
yourself a brain, A la Pius.
In any event this is my one and final and only comment on this.
And I am making it out of respect for NC members.”
MSII “
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